Campus Activism: Strive to Be Better

The brave and passionate post below was written by a college student and sexual assault survivor who requested to be published anonymously. 

As a college freshman, I defined the idea of disillusionment. I came into college recovering from an emotionally devastating sexual assault, which I had already begun to justify and repress with ease. I had left my friends and my family, everything I had known, entering a world that was nothing like I expected. By the time I began to accept what had happened to me and came clean to my new friends, I had an entire semester of loneliness and bad grades under my belt. It was at this point that I sought to turn things around and made my way to the website for the Women’s Center of my college. It was there that I found an application for a student-based group, centered in peer education on topics such as sexual assault and relationship violence. On a whim, I filled out their extensive application, securing references and underwent an intensive interview. I went through the process with zombie-like motions, still unsure if I was ready to face my past. I was accepted onto the team and in that moment, accepted what happened to me and began to look toward a future for other survivors.

However, my time with this group has been somewhat disappointing. Girls have come to a couple meetings and then stopped showing up, presumably enduring the rigorous application process for the sake of a resume builder. Students in charge of the group have routinely neglected it; projects organized and carried out successfully by groups in years past have fallen flat. Meetings are only bi-weekly and often last less than forty minutes, with most of that time being used to discuss the events of each member’s day or the latest campus gossip. I had never even heard of the team before I conducted my own research into the program, even though we do have an assigned “Recruitment Chair”. Why? Why is there so little passion? Recently, I overheard two senior members discussing a recent campus awareness project that involved wearing the color red to show support for survivors of relationship violence and sexual assault. In discussing how the event could’ve been better publicized, one said “Well, I guess it’s not really a big issue that people are going to care about on campus.” The other replied, “No, but it should be.” This, to me, seems to be the root of the problem – with my group in particular, and with similar programs nationwide.

Why are women’s rights and the prevention of sexual assault, relationship violence, and the like not a bigger issue on college campuses? We hear the stories of death by relationship violence, we’re shown the statistics of unreported rapes, and yet the problem still runs rampant. We even have colleges where people picket against the women’s centers, making light of rape in a show of ignorance that defies explanation. It is the responsibility of every university nationwide to make services available to victims, and to create an environment where these issues are discussed and acted upon rather than swept under the rug. Further, it is the responsibility of students involved in prevention programs to take them seriously. Programs like these should not be a throwaway activity, a footnote on a resume, a way to superficially pay homage to an affected relative or friend. We, as the youth, must start demanding action, and this begins with demanding more of ourselves.

When did standing against abuse and blowing the whistle on things like rape and violence become something to be ashamed of? We must stand tall not only against heinous acts like these but also against the ignorance that allows them to continue. It is time to ask more of ourselves, more of each other, and more of our schools. Despite my disappointments with the team at my school, I cannot ignore the good they have done. They give frequent presentations to various student groups and help to manage awareness campaigns, and have no doubt saved countless victims. However, there is always more to be done. I personally plan to throw myself into the group with unwavering dedication, and as I gain more experience begin to implement changes in its design. I will help to get the message out in ways its never been broadcast before. I will fight against the hopelessness that many in this line of work feel, and that is so easy to let permeate your actions when the harsh reality of the monster we are fighting is considered. And I hope that others will fight with me – for real campus reform, for real activism, and for a better future.

Breaking News: FBI Changes Rape Definition At Long Last

Back in October, SAFER posted about the FBI’s outrageously archaic definition of rape: “The carnal knowledge of a female, forcibly and against her will.”  The agency later said that it had voted to update the definition to more accurately reflect the realities of rape, including the fact that, yes, men can be victims, too.  Now, it’s finally happening.  According to CNN, “[the] Justice Department announced [today] that it is revising a decades-old definition of rape to expand the kinds of offenses that constitute the crime and for the first time, include men as victims.” Huzzah! And congratulations to Ms. Magazine and the Women’s Law Project on their successful campaigns!

Holding the state accountable for rape in prison

The good news here is that some sort of accountability might be the eventual outcome of this story, but the bad news is that (a) it happened at all and (b) that excuses are still being made.

A woman in Upstate New York was serving time for a probation violation in relation to a conviction for unauthorized credit card use (first and foremost, how does such a thing carry a 1 to 4 year prison sentence? **) when she was raped twice by a guard. The guard was already under investigation for raping another inmate, but had not been removed from his duties, reassigned to administrative duties, or even placed under strict supervision – and the investigation was apparently carried out at a snail’s pace. Now the State of New York has been found liable by a judge – how much they will have to pay has not yet been determined.

Props go to the Times-Union Editorial Board for (a) covering the story and (b) calling out the State for its disgraceful failure to fully and quickly investigate and respond to the first claim.

[The court judgment] might have state officials a bit chagrined — or so we’d think. What we’re actually hearing, however, is a more tiresome and more defensive excuse for how the prison system works.

Sorry, but this is the wrong time to hear about how routine the complaints against prison guards are. Or how labor laws make it so hard to suspend corrections officers in cases like this.

What’s so hard about forthrightness, especially now?

An often-made observation here — that to incarcerate someone is to assume responsibility for the safety and health of that person — becomes particularly pertinent.

Check out Just Detention International for more on the scope of sexual assault in prisons and what you can do.

** The guard in this case later admitted to raping the woman and plead guilty. He was sentenced to two months of weekends in jail. I wish I was making this shit up.

Winter Break Challenge Mini-Webinar #2: Risk Reduction and Primary Prevention

In Part 2 of SAFER’s 4-part Policy Reform Webinar Series, Trainings Coordinator Erin Burrows explains the role of risk reduction and primary prevention in comprehensive sexual assault prevention programming on campus. Stay tuned for Parts 3 and 4 of SAFER’s Policy Reform Webinar Series!

International Day to End Violence Against Sex Workers

International Day to End Violence Against Sex Workers was on December 17th. I am sorry that I didn’t write about it before it happened, as there were events around the world that I would have loved to help advertise. Too often clients, employers, and police subject sex workers to violence, and too often little is done to stop it. Attitudes toward sex workers often partake of the same sort of victim-blaming, slut-shaming words and behaviors often faced by sexual assault survivors, as part of a larger set of cultural attitudes that seek to limit women’s equality. SAFER believes that campuses are made safer by resisting violence against sex workers, and we hope that sex workers might be made safer by promoting safer campuses – challenging deeply ingrained cultural attitudes takes work from all sides to chip away, change, and remake our culture.

Effectively supporting sex worker activism can be a complicated challenge from outside such an experience, however – it’s important for me to recognize that my position may be a relatively privileged one and is definitely one without experience in that field. I tend in such cases to look for guidance from voices who have experiences I don’t have, and experiences with sex work can vary greatly. Many people are forced into it, either through coercion or from a lack of other legitimate economic options. Others choose sex work because it provides a better economic option or because they get pleasure from it. How people entered the field may strongly shape their reactions to attempts to end violence against sex workers and to combat human trafficking.

As a case in point, Sex Work Activists, Allies and You (SWAAY), who I found through the Feministe post that tipped me off that I had missed International Day to End Violence Against Sex Workers, will be protesting a recent Google Foundation grant to organizations that aim to end human trafficking. While SWAAY recognizes the importance of fighting slavery and coercion, they believe that three of the funded organizations, including the lead partner, take anti-sex worker positions and encourage the criminalization of sex workers. A particular concern for them is that many organizations led by sex workers or former sex workers seem to be having more difficulty accessing funding then those that are promoting solutions from the outside.

At least one of the organizations of concern to SWAAY has partnered with GEMS, however, an organization founded by a woman who is a survivor of commercial sexual exploitation in her teenage years, and an organization whose work I really respect. GEMS does tremendous work to help survivors (largely children and adolescents) of what they term “commercial sexual exploitation” develop educational and employment opportunities and deal with the traumas associated with their lives before and after being exploited.

The complexities of navigating the rhetorics and realities of anti-trafficking work were recently highlighted in a recent, fascinating Bitch article. The author, Emi Koyama, highlights the emphasis in much anti-trafficking work and media coverage on increased policing and decreased investigation of the complex factors of poverty, racism, abuse and homophobia that inform many people’s experience of human trafficking.

While very much recognizing the validity of the concerns raised (as one tiny example, I am totally weirded out by the almost unalleviated use of “victim” in the several anti-trafficking websites I reviewed, GEMS very much excepted), I also am moved by the work that many of these organizations are doing on behalf of people, many of them children, who clearly did not make a choice to become sex workers. Sexual abuse of children is something we definitely need desperately to combat in all its forms, and I think it is very important to separate issues of children and adults in sex work.

I have a lot to learn about sex worker activism and anti-trafficking, and this post is intended to raise issues I’m thinking about, not to reach a conclusion. One point on which I definitely agree with SWAAY is the need to support more organizations led by sex-workers and former sex-workers. SAFER similarly strives to be led by students and recent graduates because we believe that personal experience is a key source of information to guide effective activism.

To take it back to where this post began, look to sex worker and former sex worker activists like GEMS, Sex Workers Outreach Project-USA (organizers of the International Day to End Violence Against Sex Workers), and SWAAY to learn from those who have experienced sex work how we might best work to end violence against sex workers. I hope that we can all work together to develop and promote thoughtful, judicious policies, programs, and laws that recognize and prosecute abuse, but also recognize and respect adult choices in situations where a choice was freely made. Certainly, I hope we can all agree that respecting, and not criminalizing, sex workers is the first step we all need to take.

Wisconsin slashes funding for sexual assault services

According to a student op-ed in the Badger Herald, sexual assault services in Wisconsin are being cut 42.5% in 2012. These cuts will affect programs all across the state, including the University of Wisconsin system, which has several state funded prevention and response programs.

Writer Hannah Sleznikow calls out the dangerously short-sighted and infuriating message these cuts send:

This radical slash in funding represents negligent legislating on the part of our state representatives, for it demonstrates a failure to recognize what is in the best interest of the people of Wisconsin. Sexual assault is an issue that adversely affects society as a whole. By not coping with it effectively via funding for essential services to help victims and prevent future occurrences, our state representatives are sending a troubling message that sexual assault is not a matter of utmost concern in Wisconsin.

Since SAFER is a not-for-profit, I’ll avoid commenting on other aspects of the Wisconsin political scene, but thank you, Hannah (apparently, Hannah is the current name of choice for emerging leaders in defending people’s right to be safe from sexual assault), for alerting us all to this latest outrageous budget cutting exercise.

Boston University Takes It Seriously

Coach Jack Parker of Boston University’s hockey team takes sexual assault very seriously. The team’s star center was kicked off the team yesterday and had his scholarship revoked after he was arrested for drunkenly breaking into a woman’s dorm room and forcibly kissing and groping her. According to the Boston Globe, Parker had previously tried to convince the student to get help for his alcohol problem, and warned him that another drinking incident would lead to his dismissal (this was apparently the first time that sexual assault allegations were involved).

I can’t say enough about how impressed I am with Coach Parker and BU. Everything the coach and the university had to say is right on point – their concern is how to best help the survivor and they are clearly committed to conveying a zero tolerance policy for sexual assault. They also make clear that the player’s drinking is a problem because it lowered his internal barriers that might otherwise have kept him from assaulting someone – there was no attempt to blame the victim or move the focus off his unacceptable behavior in any way.

Maybe what I appreciated most was Coach Parker’s ability to put winning on the ice in its relative context:

“My team is very upset,’’ said Parker. “He’s a real good teammate, he’s friends with an awful lot of these guys. He’s well liked. He’s so important to the team from a winning and losing point of view. He’s been our leading goal scorer, he’s been our first-line center, our best penalty killer, a power-play guy, he gets all kinds of ice time.

“All that pales in comparison to the other stuff that’s going on. The way he is gone makes it even worse because now it’s a big hole in the soul of the team, so to speak. We might not recover from that. That type of stuff is all trivial compared to the stuff he’s going to have to recover from and the girl’s going to have to recover from.’’

In an month when we’ve learned more than we could imagine about just how far some colleges will go to protect their sports programs, major kudos to Coach Parker and BU.

Winter Break Challenge: Policy Reform Mini-Webinar!

To get the Winter Break Challenge rolling, SAFER’s Training Coordinator, Erin Burrows, guides student activists through the steps of policy reform in a series of awesome webinars! First up: Deconstructing “Tone and Definition” in your school’s policy. You can find links to shortened and extended versions below. Enjoy!

SHORTENED VERSION

EXTENDED VERSION