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Rick Santorum recently stated that abortion should be uniformly illegal, even in cases of rape or incest. He even went as far to suggest that physicians who provide abortions to such victims should be criminally charged as well.
Santorum is a right-wing candidate in the GOP presidential field who repeatedly expresses his extreme anti-choice position, which would fully eliminate a woman’s right to choice, even in instances when she did not choose to have sex. He insists that his position is not a matter of religious values, and that all sexual assault survivors should accept their horribly created pregnancy because it is still a gift from God. Survivors should just make the best out of a bad situation, which is a not too dissimilar way of saying, “Just relax and enjoy it.”
Here is what he said word-for-word:
“Well, you can make the argument that if she doesn’t have this baby, if she kills her child, that that, too, could ruin her life. And this is not an easy choice. I understand that. As horrible as the way that that son or daughter and son was created, it still is her child. And whether she has that child or doesn’t, it will always be her child. And she will always know that. And so to embrace her and to love her and to support her and get her through this very difficult time, I’ve always, you know, I believe and I think the right approach is to accept this horribly created — in the sense of rape — but nevertheless a gift in a very broken way, the gift of human life, and accept what God has given to you. As you know, we have to, in lots of different aspects of our life. We have horrible things happen. I can’t think of anything more horrible. But, nevertheless, we have to make the best out of a bad situation.”
Santorum seems to have confused his definition of “choice.” He thinks he can choose to tell women that a baby created through rape is a joyous gift, when it is up to her to make that decision. This isn’t just a decision to get a haircut or a new pair of shoes, it’s committing to a child for the rest of your life, knowing you did not willingly want to convince him or her. Even though it is illegal for a man to force himself upon women, he wants the women to be the unwilling incubator of her rapist’s offspring, regardless of what it does to her mental or physical well-being. If he gets his way, any women of child-bearing age could, presumably, be forced by any man to breed his child, all while being cheerful and grateful.
He thinks that he has the right to tell women to share his religious beliefs, even if those beliefs limit her right to make her own decisions. Rape and sexual assault causes enduring emotional and physical trauma, often leaving women feeling robbed of any control over her own body and welfare. If she is not able to choose to abort her baby, this will only further her feelings of being “out-of-control,” causing further trauma. Santorum does not understand the complex symptoms that rape and sexual assault survivor’s experience, but still feels the need to strip women survivors of their basic rights. It should be a woman’s choice to abort or keep a child, regardless of how it was created. It is not the government’s choice, and it is certainly not Rick Santorum’s choice.
As reality television has taken a hold on worldwide audiences, we have seen the rise of nearly every kind of show you could imagine. From feats of strength to incredible tests of willpower, unfamiliar conditions to intolerable housemates, we put reality television stars through inconceivable things. But should they have to endure sexual assault? That’s the question sweeping the globe as news of the potential rape of a cast member on the Brazilian version of the television show “Big Brother” comes to light. The contestant in question, 23-year-old Monique Amin, was shown on live videotape being subjected to what appeared to be rape by her housemate, 30-year-old Daniel Echaniz. The video shows the woman passed out after a long night of drinking, and Echaniz getting into bed with her. The next seven minutes show movement underneath the blanket evocative of sexual activity — but Amin barely stirs. She does not react when Echaniz gets into bed, nor when he leaves, and any movement during the act appears to be a direct result of Echaniz’s movement. The next morning, Amin was questioned about the incident in the confessional set up for contestants, and appeared to know almost nothing about what had happened. She expressed confusion about the occurrence, as well distress at the fact that she had gotten so intoxicated she couldn’t remember anything. She is quoted by The Guardian as saying “We kissed, I remember one kiss, he said there were two…Sex?…No. Only if he was a real scumbag and did it while I was sleeping.” Seven minutes for two kisses? Seems unlikely. When Amin approached Echaniz about the incident, he informed her that they had “only kissed” and advised her to “let it go.” Even more startling, the petition site Change.org reports that Amin has not been allowed access to the tapes of the event, and told very little about what actually happened.
Though Echaniz was found guilty of “inappropriate behavior” following a police investigation and removed from the show, there are still many who call for some accountability on the part of Globo Network, the company that produces the show. How is it possible that the cameras could capture a relatively prolonged sexual assault, and nothing was done about it? No staff member was sent in to check that the act was consensual? Yes, reality television is a bizarre world, in which many contestants, including those on Big Brother Brasil, are encouraged to do outrageous things. “The company has often been criticized for ‘baiting’ its contestants with alcohol and thrusting them into situations seemingly designed to cause conflict” says The Telegraph. However, there must be a line drawn. When something looks like sexual assault, it must be assumed that it is sexual assault rather than the opposite. In a house full of cameras, how was an assault allowed to go on unimpeded? It would seem to be an implied value of civilized society to prevent our fellow man from being raped for our entertainment. So why, then, did television ratings become more important than the safety of a young woman, if only for a brief period of time?
Currently, Amin denies that she was raped and does not wish to press charges. She was medically examined following the incident, but details of the examination have not been made public. Police chief Ricardo Nunes stated that his department had collected the underwear worn by Amin and Echaniz, and would assess the state of the sheets for semen traces as well as evaluate the video footage based on the testimonies of the contestants. But is this enough? Reactive investigation would not have been necessary if somebody from Globo Network had prevented this shocking incident from happening in the first place. While reality television is often criticized for dehumanizing contestants to allow them to better serve as entertainment, this incident takes that to unimaginable lengths. While it may not be true that the producers were aware of the assault and allowed it to happen, or even staged it for publicity purposes, there should’ve been far more precautionary measures to prevent it from happening in the first place. Women, especially women whose lives are broadcast to thousands of viewers, should not have to fear rape as the result of excessive drinking. It is time for Globo Network producers to question their actions as well as the continued existence of such television shows, and perhaps time for us as viewers to question exactly what we can do to stop the runaway train of reality television.
In the third installment of SAFER’s mini-webinar series, Trainings Coordinator Erin Burrows explains how survivor support services can and should fit into a university’s sexual assault policy!
The words “Rape Culture” are often scoffed at in society and categorized as just a radical viewpoint of feminists. But I’d like to disprove that it is a radical viewpoint and also just note that feminists do not hate men. So as you read, please disembark any negative thoughts you may have about feminism and keep your mind open to the fact that we do, indeed, live in a rape culture.
Rape culture describes a culture in which sexual violence is common and the attitudes, norms, practices, and media condone, normalize, excuse, and/or tolerate sexual violence. It is hard to argue that this does not happen in our society here in the United States. Look at rap music. Look at movies such as The Girl with Dragon Tattoo and the American classic, Forrest Gump. Remember the riots and support for Joe Paterno at Penn State at the end of last year. Look at most advertisements that objectify women. The list can go on.
We have normalized the idea that women are not worth dignity and respect. We have accepted that women’s rights are violated and well, that’s just the way it is. We do not get angry when we see photos of women being objectified, disrespected, or assaulted. We do not believe victims of sexual assault, instead, we victim blame due to how much she drank, the clothes she was wearing, the bar she was at, or who her group of friends are.
…That is why when I saw this photo, originally posted at Feministe, I was immediately angry because I know that most people who see it laugh. The owners that put it up probably did it as a joke. I didn’t laugh and I don’t think it’s worthy of “joke status.”
This is the sign on the bathroom door at Heeeey Saxby’s Coffee in Washington D.C. There is no violence in this photo. There is no contact in this photo. But this photo alludes to the fact that women do not deserve respect nor dignity. If they do not deserve it, then sexually assaulting them shouldn’t be a problem. Rape. Culture.
I am engulfed in the work of trying to prevent and one day eradicate sexual violence. Every day I am faced with people pushing back on my passion and brushing off the issue as if it is not a big deal. IT IS A BIG DEAL. Until we can get angry about pictures like this. Until we can start recognizing that women DO deserve respect and to be treated with dignity. Until we can use our consumer power(s) to disable profitable entities from contributing to the rape culture. Until women are no longer objectified, violated, oppressed, isolated, and assaulted. It is not until all of these things are accomplished that we will end rape culture. So until then, pictures like this are a big deal…not a laughing matter.
I am pretty tired of the “shit people say” meme, but this one is too spot on (sadly) not to post. I especially like how it covers so many different people and types of relationships (men, women, queer relationships, married folks, sex workers)…
Last week, a friend approached me with an all too common problem. She said a friend of hers admitted that a close friend of theirs sexually assaulted her, and didn’t know what to do or say. Being the first person someone tells about a sexual assault can be overwhelming, and it can be hard to find the right words to say. Especially if it involves good friends.
Before you start talking, try to understand what your friend is going through:
Here are some important tips for helping a friend if they have recently experienced a rape or sexual assault:
Be aware of your own feelings about sexual abuse.
If you are uncomfortable talking about this issue, it is okay. Helping the survivor identify who might be able to talk with them about the issue can also be supportive.
Try to respond calmly and openly.
Hearing about sexual abuse can be difficult. It can be very helpful to a survivor if you remain calm and non-judgmental. Also, provide a safe environment for discussion.
Refrain from negative comments about the perpetrator.
Keep in mind that most often, about 85% of the time, individuals who are sexually assaulted/abused are assaulted by someone they know. As a result they may have mixed feelings about the person.
Do not interrogate.
Let the individual tell you about the abuse on his/her terms. Do not pressure the person but let him/her talk when they are comfortable.
Let the individual know that you believe him/her.
Fear of not being believed is a concern expressed by many survivors. Being believed is important for people of all ages and helps eliminate feelings of guilt or shame.
Commend the survivor for talking and reaching out for help.
Talking about the abuse is often a big step. Acknowledge this.
Assure the survivors that they are not to blame for the assault.
Survivors often have deep feelings of guilt or shame about the abuse. Only sexual offenders are at fault for the abuse. No one asks to be raped or assaulted.
Respect the privacy of the survivor.
Do not share what was told in confidence. If you think another person would be better able to help, give the survivor that person’s name.
Provide information about supportive services.
Do not force the survivor to seek out supportive services. Survivors of sexual assault need to regain a sense of control over their lives. Instead, help them locate the correct information and, if appropriate, offer to accompany them.
Encourage the survivor to obtain a medical examination.
If he or she has not done so already, encourage them get a medical examination. But in other respects, resist your natural desire to give advice. Allow the survivor to make their own decision about their next steps.
[Sexual Assault Support Services - http://www.sassnh.org/find-help/how-to-help-a-friend.cfm]
Sometimes there are helpful things to say, but sometimes there aren’t. One thing I’ve learned while in my position as President of Students Active for Ending Rape at Ithaca College is that sometimes the best thing you can do is just unconditionally listen. Just listen to your friend, who may be trying to make sense of what happened to them. I found that a common obstacle for survivors of sexual assault is the inability to put his or her feelings into words. I believe that allowing them to talk without the fear or judgment or anger can help the survivor sort out their feelings. Also, accept their choice of solution to the assault even if you disagree with what they have chosen to do. It is more important that they feel empowered to make choices and take back control than it is to impose what you feel you think is the correct decision.
Last but not least, don’t forget, take care of yourself. If someone you know is assaulted or raped, you may feel upset. Even if your friend doesn’t want to talk to a counselor, you can get support for yourself. Talking to a counselor can help you understand your own reactions and what you and your friend are going through. A counselor can also give you ideas about how to help your friend.
If you haven’t already caught wind of Men Can Stop Rape’s new campaign, you should head over to their website and check it out. It’s called WHERE DO YOU STAND? and encourages young men to be active bystanders.
You can purchase these posters on their website. Men Can Stop Rape also offers training for professionals and peer educators informed by research about young men’s perceived barriers against intervening in situations involving potential sexual assault.
Are you currently living in New York and interested in being part of an amazing volunteer collective? SAFER is looking for a Trainings Coordinator to join the team! I’ve included a description of this position below, but you can also find this volunteer listing on Idealist!
Trainings Coordinator
Students Active for Ending Rape (SAFER) is devoted to empowering college students to change how their schools prevent and respond to sexual violence by providing them with resources to help build successful grassroots sexual assault policy reform campaigns. SAFER trains students in effective organizing tactics and encourage them to examine the overlapping links between sexual assault and all forms of individual and institutional violence. Our goal is to ensure that every college puts in place prevention programs, crisis services, disciplinary procedures, and community outreach programs that challenge the oppressions that ultimately cause sexual violence.
SAFER is operated and governed by a diverse Board of Directors. The Board of Directors works as a volunteer collective, determining the policies and overall strategy of this nationally recognized nonprofit, largely operating by consensus. This intimate connection to the work and the field provides each member of the Board with an opportunity to actively create social change while gaining professional nonprofit management experience in a non-hierarchical setting. Our approach to running the organization provides a platform to strengthen one’s personal and professional skills while connecting to a greater network of like-minded advocates and activists.
SAFER is currently seeking a new Board Member to fill the role of Trainings Coordinator. Our Trainings Coordinator oversees the content of curriculum and training materials, trainings promotion and outreach, initial relationship building with campus organizers, supervision of our staff Trainer/Mentors and ensuring the logistical side of trainings is effectively carried out.
The Trainings Coordinator is Responsible For:
- Collaboration with the Communications Coordinators for the promotion of trainings on social media platforms
- Timely response to all trainings inquiries, follow up and documenting inquiries
- Supervision of two staff Trainer/Mentors via a monthly in-person check-in and e-mail
- Coordination of logistics of estimating the trainings cost, contracts, travel and accommodation arrangements and ensuring materials are available for trainings
- Reviewing curricula and materials and updating as necessary
- Reviewing trainings promotional materials including electronic outreach, flyer, sliding scale fee schema and contracts
- Reviewing evaluations and collaborating with Trainer/Mentors to improve current trainings
- Collaboration with the Mentoring Coordinator for smooth programmatic transitions from Trainings to the Activist Mentoring Program (AMP!)
- Innovative outreach strategies such as promotion of trainings during SAFER’s Winter Break Challenge and April’s Sexual Assault Activism Month
Meetings and Commitment:
SAFER holds monthly board meetings, which are currently scheduled for the second Tuesday of the month, 7:00p.m – 9:00p.m at SAFER’s downtown Manhattan office. (Dates are subject to change.)
Board members are active participants in the organization’s overall planning and fundraising efforts and communicate frequently via email–estimated time commitment of three to five hours per week. Board members must reside in the New York Metro Area.
Back in October, SAFER posted about the FBI’s outrageously archaic definition of rape: “The carnal knowledge of a female, forcibly and against her will.” The agency later said that it had voted to update the definition to more accurately reflect the realities of rape, including the fact that, yes, men can be victims, too. Now, it’s finally happening. According to CNN, “[the] Justice Department announced [today] that it is revising a decades-old definition of rape to expand the kinds of offenses that constitute the crime and for the first time, include men as victims.” Huzzah! And congratulations to Ms. Magazine and the Women’s Law Project on their successful campaigns!
